A 37-year-old woman no longer feels valued by her husband, with whom she has been married for 17 years, as well as two children. She told The Sun’s “Dear Deidre” how her husband’s low interest in her prompted her to have virtual sex with a guy she met online.
Will he manage to save the marriage after what happened? Here is her full story:
“When my husband took the oath during the wedding ceremony, he told me that he loved me because of the sense of humor I have, but why does this bother him now? Every joke or trick I make is accompanied by an ignorance on his part. Now I have started to seek attention elsewhere.
We met at university and have been married for 17 years. He is 40 years old, while I am 37 and we have two children together aged 5 and 9 years old. My husband gets out of bed at nine o’clock in the morning to avoid me, so I downloaded the ‘Tinder’ online dating app to have fun.
I did not intend to know my twin soul, so the flirtations I did were harmless. But I became so obsessed with talking to strangers that I ended up checking my phone too often.
A guy, named Mike, told me I looked funny. But the conversation between us has not been bad. One night he asked me to talk to the camera and we spent two hours talking about work, family or hope for the future.
A few days later we had our first virtual meeting while drinking a few glasses of alcohol while talking on camera. After we returned a few glasses, he asked me to tell him how I looked naked and asked me to touch myself while he was looking at me. I asked him the same.
We ended up having virtual sex, which I had never tried before, but I liked. We have done this several other times. But even though I like talking to Mike, I know deep down that there will be nothing more between us than just ‘friends with benefits’.
I am thinking of telling everything to my husband so that he can work harder for our marriage. Am I naive that I think this will improve our relationship?”.
“Dear Deidre” says:
“You do not seem to want to ruin your marriage. Although infidelity is not a good thing, your spouse does not make you feel valued, so you went to other men to get what you lack.
You need to be prepared because your spouse may not show understanding in this situation. Your main problem seems to be the lack of communication”.